Gay Marriage from a Christian Perspective

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Gay Marriage from a Christian Perspective

Wow! What a title! Got your attention? I hope so. This is a controversial enough issue without throwing the Christian part in too but I am going to do it anyway. Well, let me say it’s from my perspective as a Christian and what I would hope would be all Christians perspectives but I know it is not.

First of all, I want to point out that I am not religious. And now I need to explain the difference between religious and Christian as I see it. A religious person follows rules set out by the religion but a Christian follows the teachings set out by Jesus Christ. So, I’m not religious, but I am a Christian.

OK, now, here’s what I believe Jesus taught us about gay people… acceptance, without judgement, without criticism and with love. To clarify a little, this is towards the people, not the act, not what they do, but towards the people themselves. Accept them, don’t judge them, don’t criticise, and love them as people all the same. What too many of us don’t understand is that Jesus loved the people, every one, not just those that did right but everyone. Not only those He wanted too, but everyone. Not only those that think like He does, but everyone. Does that mean he likes what they do? Or encourages it? No. He doesn’t accept the act of what they are doing but he accepts the people, all the people, equally. It’s called unconditional love. No conditions… doesn’t matter what they do or did or who too, He loves them all the same and accepts them as they are. So, as a Christian, I do too.

So, about the topic at hand, Gay Marriage. A gay friend of mine recently posted on Facebook that he doesn’t care about the topic itself but the underlying issue, which is equality. At least that is what I got out of his post, sorry if I misunderstood. But that seems to be what this is really about… equality. I mean, at first I didn’t get it. The gays want to get married? I asked myself. But that’s when the romance ends, the sex ends and all the other jokes or stereotypes that go with married life. You know, you settle down, you stop going out, you have kids and life as you know is officially over. Why do gay people want to fight for that? That’s one thought I had, in a not so serious moment, I must admit. A slightly more serious thought followed later and it was along these lines… More and more married people are getting separated and divorced. I know married people that have become separated, met someone new, someone they want to spend the rest of their lives with but do not want to ever get married again. Does the gay community know that this happens? If they do, then why do they still fight for the ability to get married? And I admit, while it is a more serious thought, it still doesn’t hit the mark of what they really want. It is the ability to choose this option… like everyone else. It is the act of feeling equal. Like every one else… that is what equality really means. To be like everyone else, to have the same choices, the same options, the same opportunities… and the same consequences.

Now, what did I say before about how Jesus treats people? He treats them all the same, as equals. So, would Jesus accept this? Would he want gay people to get married? I don’t think he would care… see, what I said earlier again. He cares about the people, not what they do. Now maybe I’m wrong in thinking this way and I’m sure a lot of religious people will say that I am and probably a lot of Christians too. It doesn’t change what I think… I am for the Gay community being treated as equal and I think Jesus would be too. Yes, I said that.

I am in for equality. I think all people should have equal opportunities and be treated equally, including pay rates… but that’s an entirely different discussion… about the same thing.

None of this has anything to do with my book. I just felt I wanted to share my thoughts on the topic and so I have. If you agree with my perspective then why not share this post or follow me…


4 Responses

  1. Interesting reflection. I welcome your drive for equality and acceptance. I’m just not quite sure what you want you think about gay people themselves. You say “He loves them all the same and accepts them as they are” suggesting they are gay by nature; then you say “He cares about the people, not what they do” similar to the ‘Hate the sin, not the sinner’. Ultimately do you recognise that the love gay people feel, and act upon, is as legitimate as the love heterosexual people feel and act upon. Or are you just rewording the idea of ‘Hate the sin, not the sinner’?
    Just a thought 🙂

    Walking Around Human

    • Peter Way says:

      Hi Walking Around Human,
      Thanks for your comment. I can honestly say I didn’t think of it as ‘hate the sin, not the sinner’ and I wasn’t trying to reword it, but that is something that I do agree with. People are not perfect and need forgiveness and God taught that no sin is worse than another, they all separate us from Him no matter how bad we think it is. I can’t help but think of the words of Jesus, “He who is without sin should cast the first stone.” Every time I hear or see something about this situation on TV or social media, I hear those words too. Honestly, I don’t usually write about stuff like this but I haven’t been able to get this out of my head. I felt I needed to say what I said. I know there are other ramifications to this and I don’t honestly know what all of them are. But I feel that using personal beliefs as an excuse to not allow this law to be changed is wrong, especially if those beliefs are based upon the Bible. While the Bible doesn’t say their lifestyle is acceptable, it also doesn’t say that husbands who cheat on their wives is acceptable but they are allowed to get married. I could follow that example around and around with lots of other sins (even going further and saying things about priests sinning and still being allowed to preach – but I don’t think I should open that can of worms). Yes, hate the sin, but more importantly, hate the one that influences the sin – that being the Devil.
      To answer your question, I do think the love gay people have for each other is as legitimate as the love heterosexual people feel. If they want to show that to the world by getting married, then I say let them. They want to do it in a church? It’s just a building, so why not. It’s the peoples attitudes and judgements that will cause problems with that – and the Bible says we shouldn’t judge, that’s God’s job.

      • Thanks for the reply Peter,

        You have a very interesting way of looking at things; although I don’t think I share the same rationale as yours, we share the same conclusion. I would not be so hard on yourself, I don’t believe we are born with sin. Although I am not here to ‘challenge’ anyones religion, I am intreated in the idea of discourse (the idea that the conversations we have, shape the society we live in) and I am always skeptical with the association of homosexuality and sin. Although we may share many moral and ethical values, I would not be prepared to equate gay marriage to adultery, and that is where I take issue I guess. Regardless, I do wish more Christians shared your way of looking at things. Thanks for the reply ?.

        Walking Around Human

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